Are We Taught To Target Dysfunctional Adults??

I had received a request from one of our readers that I feel is worthy of some discussion, but I just haven't come up with anything that I can be proud to put my name on. When I write it, it comes of as I am being very defensive (as I often do being a sales director and having to always read on that other site that all directors "do this" or all sales directors "do that" and I know what I do and don't do and I know what I have been taught and what I have not been taught and most of what they say is poopoo. This is a great topic and one I would like for readers of the web to have a place to read "the other side" of the article that was titled on that other site:

"Adult Children of Dysfunctional Families: The Perfect Recruiting Pool for the MLM Industry" Written by Raisinberry

Our requester begins: First I want to say thank you for having such an engaging and truly balanced blog for those of us not harboring oddly bitter and seemingly misplaced hatred toward a corporation...(You are welcome!)
I know your blog comments occasionally on the articles "over there", and I don't know if you were planning on commenting on this one but for some reason this particular blame stained article got my goat more so than others and I would LOVE to hear, if you wouldn't mind, your "balanced" take on this one.
Second, (speaking of the devil) I was reading Pink Truth today and they have an article about how MLM's and Mary Kay in particular capitalize on the dysfunctional childhoods of others and how everyone who joins does so because of their dysfunctional childhood and subsequent desire to overcome their own dysfunctions and ignore others'.

I just feel as if this article, this particular subject, of dissecting and projecting, is above and beyond the normal boundaries of blame-ville and I think some other perspective might be interesting, hence my request.
Thank you in advance, if you do decide to post about it, and if not obviously that's fine :) thanks for all that you do post. (Will give it my best)

I wanted to comment on this article the first time I read it and then I actually was totally repulsed that they could write such filth and no one calls them on it. I find it totally offensive in more than one way. And even though it doesn't happen often, I must admit, the disgust of what they try to imply does leave me without much to say but shaking my head in disbelief.

I have never known of anyone in Mary Kay that goes and targets "wounded souls" to capitalize for their own gain. I don't know where some get the ideas that they share but I have never been told to "target" weak woman, abused woman, etc.... nor have I seen or used a questionnaire that ask if a woman came from an alcoholic or abusive family and if she checked yes, then I would work extra hard to recruit her, hogwash...(we all have baggage in our life, how we choose to handle it is up to us)

what I see from an outside point of view is that many who join Mary Kay are looking to fill voids in their lives and receiving recognition (earned or bought) begins to fill those needs. Unfortunately, when the individual starts feeling that she/he cheated to get the recognition, or that they were used or played by another, their self esteem plummets even more and they feel even worse than before. Trying to fill voids in life with Mary Kay isn't going to be anything more than a short term fix, it would be like plugging a leaking boat with a wad of bubble gum, without counseling and total change of behavior, the individual is going to remain, lost and searching. The failing in Mary Kay is just another downer to weight the troubled soul down even more but in many cases MK gives them a scapegoat, something to blame other than themselves and it is always easier to blame someone (something ie:MK) else than to accept the responsibility for your own actions. (I am not saying those that do this are conscious of what they are doing and I AM NOT saying there aren't some directors that abuse or maniupulate consultants, but I do believe, their hate of Mary Kay is just masking the hate of something else. I also feel that many after feeling "wronged" in MK should go to counseling and learn how not to get caught in the trap of their "needing" to be validated by a group. PT is far from that resource. IMHO, pt enables most to continue to wallow in their insecurities and justifies their feelings by complaining with others who are in the same boat. So they all validate one another but no one is is getting any healthier. No support group would encourage people to go over and over and still highly involved with the thing that caused them pain.

I do not see alcholics being told to go sit in a bar for 5 hours, reading the labels on the liquors, pouring drinks, smelling the drinks, etc... to save others from their pitfalls. In order for one to heel, their needs to be distance, acceptance, forgiveness, and then peace. Until the process completes itself, their is unrest. (jk- no different than running on any other treadmill) round, and round, no finish line, no place to get off.

Please everyone help me out her and get some discussion going for our requester as I have not done justice to her comment. I am very emotional and feel deeply about what I would like to express on this whole concept it just isn't translating into the written word and I don't want to keep this member waiting any longer.

One thought I did have before hitting "post" often I think because MK does focus on recogntion and praise perhaps it attracks types needing this reassurance not targets them. - just an after thought~

Please add on and make this a piece that may help many! Thank you

Log your Parties on Intouch For the Party w/a Purpose

This little picture shows us there are two ways to look at everything. Do you see a sweet young girl in the above picture or a haggy old witch? Or can you take a step back evaluate and see both? I would love some comments on what you saw first and then after looking a little deeper?? Please post!!
Interesting, huh?

Very often I find I get so busy, I often don't take the time to go and log my info on intouch but since I wanted my unit to records theirs, I felt I should lead by example. So I started (for them). Guess what?? I received a notice, I was in the top 50! woo hoo. Never would have even realized it - so I guess i will be getting a prize.. Fun since I was only doing what I should have been doing anyway.

I will get busy on our blog again as soon as I can kick this inner ear/allergy/vertigo problem,I have been dealing with. I have two requests from our readers that deserve an answer, I just want to make sure I do them justice. Stayed tuned for me to provide some fun and informative stuff.
Night all! Pink Dreams, mk4me

Oil Free Eye Makeup Remover to the Rescue

We did a magic show on stage last night. I wore MK plus a waterproof liquid eyeliner. On Mr. Gothboy I used stage makeup plus the waterproof liner. When we got home he started scrubbing away in the bathroom. "Help! How do I get this stuff off?" So I handed him the oil free eye makeup remover and some cotton balls. Stage makeup was off in a minute flat.

Nothing else works that fast. Certainly not cold cream.

Something for Everyone

Niche markets are important too. Especially those that use a lot of makeup.

MK's general image is designed to appeal to a broad base of women who wear makeup. That said, if you look at the actual products, there is a gracious plenty of items suitable for gothic looks.

Before I start listing favorites, let me say this. If you're a goth, and you're reading this, let me exhort you not to wear whiteface or try to use your cosmetics to look paler than you really are. It looks silly. All skin tones, properly cared for, are beautiful. Match your skin tone exactly with your foundation and powder. You're striving for a stark, otherworldly beauty, not for looking like a sad clown, OK? ;P

Let's start at the top. Eyebrows: We tend to shape them thinly and then fill them in. MK has eyebrow pencils to match your brows, or if you prefer powder, use coal, espresso, or chocolate kiss with a small angle brush. You can seal the powder by spraying a little hairspray on your brow brush and running it lightly over the brow.

Eyeshadow: Coal (true intense black), Sweet Plum, Raisin, Espresso, and Navy Blue are all very dark colors that blend beautifully. Crystalline and Moonstone are great shimmery pale highlights for your browbone. MK makes pencil or liquid liners, as you prefer...and then there is Ultimate Mascara for thick lashes, or Waterproof if you sweat a lot on the dance floor.

Blush: Pick the lightest blush that's suitable for your skin tone. Then sweep a little bronzer on the underside of your cheekbones, and a little highlighter over the top half. This gives you a sculpted look without overdoing the color.

Lips: For your darkest lip looks there are Dark Berry, Dark Chocolate, and Plum lip liners. You can put on a tiny bit of lip gloss or balm for moisture and then color your lips entirely with the dark liner. It has good staying power. Or for lipstick, try Black Cherry, Rich Fig, or Red, alone or with/over your lip liner.

For makeup that stays fresh all night, try the MK liquid foundation suitable for your skin type, with mineral foundation powder lightly applied over it. You'll look like a flawless doll.

There, I've done all the work for you. :) All you have to do now is apply the products to your face.

Update!!

I am still here and will get a new post up soon. I had a request from one of our readers that I would like to compose soon as I have enough time to do it justice. My personal business and my unit has been incredible (in a great way). I have had 5 unsolicited calls in the last two weeks of people calling us me if I would be willing to do a MK Party for them, now how awesome is that?? Stay tuned, it won't be long. thanks for sticking with us.

Product update: I am really, really loving the new Serum +C, it is amazing!

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Lmtd. Ed. Romantic Notions Set

This is a limited edition set featured in the Fall/Holiday Look Book. The set includes a vitamin enriched mineral formula blush that has 3 colors in a swirled pattern that can be used alone or swirled together,it comes in Silk Nector (good for Ivory/Beige skintones and Soft Sable for Beige/Bronze skintones),a professional quality cheek brush with a soft pink handle, and a zippered pink satin w/ lace overlay cosmetic bag. The retail price on the set is $30.00.

The question I was asked was "Did I have clients asking if they could buy just one piece and how to handle the situation." During my open house, I had displayed them with the blush open and with the brush on the cosmetic bag and a Look Book opened to the page where it was shown and listed as a set. Most just purchased it as a set. I did receive a couple of questions, I just explained that it was a limited edition set, not individual pieces but we could try to match up the colors to the regular line blushes. Both bought the set.

Now, I had one consultant call me with the same question and she said that the client was a wonderful client and she really wanted just the blush, and she was willing to break the set and but didn't know what to charge her and wanted my input. After brainstorming a little bit, my conclusion was... the size of the blush is equivalent to what two blushes would be.. our blushes are $10 each... so the blush piece would be $20.00, but the beauty of this is that they are getting 3 colors plus a 4th by swirling, the brush would sell for $10 (we have had other single brushes in the past that had a retail price of $10) so that price is right in line too and often clients need a good brush but can't afford to spend the $48 dollars on the brush set. The cosmetic bag could then be used as a hostess gift or gift with purchase, etc... So as long as both parties agree, this is a win/win situation. Because selling the two pieces - the retail value of the set is collected.

Thanks for the question and I hope this helps!